Monday, 18 April 2016

Fearless or Fearful | Monday Motivation | 5

Fearless, Fearful, Monday Motivation, Inspire

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which think you cannot do. - Eleanor Roosevelt

           Noun - an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm.
           Verb - be afraid of (someone or something) as likely to be dangerous, painful, or harmful.

Fear is something that we deal with in our everyday life. Whether is is something as small as a passing thought or something debilitating that affects the way you live that day, it is something that each and every one of us experience.

This is something that I have been thinking about a lot recently. Not just what fear is but what it means to us as individuals. Individuals with ambition, hopes and dreams, but individuals who are scared of what all those dreams mean.

Your fear can be something that can limit your life and hinder your success, or it can push you to strive for accomplishment. It all depends on how you view it and how you use it.

It's not a simple as being either fearless or fearful but using the emotions to get what you really want from life and not letting extremes prevent you from achieving.
Never be afraid to try something new. Remember, amatuers built the ark, professionals built the Titanic. - Unknown
 The fear of the unknown holds so many people back, myself included. Not wanting to try new things because you either don't know what it is going to be like or because you don't know what the outcome is going to be.

People may claim that fear like this is stupid, but ask those same people, even if they are the bravest people you might know if they have ever been 100% fearless going into an unknown situation and I bet they couldn't say with confidence that they have.

Sometimes you need to be fearless, you need to be brave. Yes, that unknown may be scary but if you never take the leap then that's all it will ever be, unknown. And I'll tell you what is a worse feeling than fear, regret.

If you saw last week's post about failure then you will know that I stuck at a degree that I no longer loved until I failed. Although I don't regret my experience at University or what I learnt from failing that course, I do regret not leaving a course that made me unhappy because I was scared about what it would mean for me or what others may have thought. I will never get the time that I spent in that course back and all due to letting fear hold me back.
The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. - Nelson Mandela
Alternatively, fear can help you. Ever heard the saying, 'if you are scared it means you still have something to loose'?

You need to find that balance between being fearless and fearful, sitting between the extremes to be able to make your fear work for you. Fear is there for a reason. It is a basic human response that stops us from doing things that could potentially bring us pain or harm, physical or emotional. Even a courageous person knows their limits and when to stop.

Take this as an example. You have a job interview, for a job that you applied for but never expected to be good enough to land an interview for. I've been there and it is scary. You need to go into that interview leaving that fear outside but always keep a little bit with you. It sounds contradictory but stay with me. Bravery and courage are amazing traits, but going into that interview with no fear at all can translate as over-confident and conceited, and let's face it, those traits are not so amazing!

Everyone would expect someone in a situation such as an interview to be somewhat nervous, it makes you human and relateable.
In skating over thin ice our safety is in our speed. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
It is a special balance between being fearless and fearful as opposed to avoiding fear altogether. Find the ways that can work for you, use your fear to your advantage, become successful but humble and lead by example, show others that you can be scared but productive!

 Do you have any tips to help find the balance? Have you ever let fear get in your way or have you overcome it and used it to make something happen for yourself?

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